I made a statement the other day that I was the Queen of Reinvention! It surprised me that I said it so matter of factly, but then I realised that I was. I have reinvented myself many times over the years, in business and in life.
Although evolution is a natural part of life we can often buck against it. We can feel insecure in the unknown and unsure about what’s ahead.
Rather than fret about your next phase of reinvention, I want you to embrace it. Know that without it you can’t grow. Without it you’ll get very bored very quickly.
Knowing that there are stages we all go through during our reinvention can put our minds at rest a little. I know when I share this with my clients and audience they love to identify which stage they’re in and what’s coming up next.
Reinvention can be a small step or a massive leap, but I’ve found these stages are always the same.
At some stage you will get to that point where you start to reinvent yourself in a way that finally feels right to you.
The first stage of reinvention is the realisation that where you are is no longer where you want to be. This can be a big one and a little scary, but it really is a vital part of your journey.
Quite often we’ll go through life and we’re quite happy with the situation we’re in. But then something shifts, something within us changes and we realise we need to change direction.
We want more, but we don’t know why. This can come along in a slow burn where you get tiny little nudges that start to get louder the longer you leave them.
Or it may be one particular event that makes you realise it’s time to move on.
Don’t settle for where you are if it’s not where you want to be.
Now this stage can be really fun and exciting, but also pretty scary and unsettling. This is where you start to figure out what is working in your life and career, and what isn’t. This is a journey and a process, so don’t let the discovery phase put you off.
It can be really hard to answer the ‘what do I really want?’ question. You really need to open your heart and mind to what’s possible and let yourself figure this out.
Often when we realise that our career or business isn’t giving us the joy we want, we can get really stuck trying to work out the logical next step. I stayed stuck in this phase for years, never really knowing where my true value was and which direction to take.
My advice to you here is to ditch the logic, step back and look at 3 things.
- Your Story – What’s changed for you? How have things shifted? What are some of the common themes that keep popping up for you?
- Style – How do you prefer to work? When do you feel you’re most creative? What is it you love to do and what is it you never want to do again?
- Experience – Your credentials, expertise & skills.
Harness your natural gifts, work with what comes naturally to you.
3. Fear & Doubt
Oh my lord! When you start to step away from your comfort zone and really go after what you feel inside is your path to take, it is so freakin’ scary. The fear, doubt and resistance just whacks you in the face. Sometimes it will sneak up on you and disguise itself as something else, other times it’s just blatant.
This is part of the process and also shows you’re on the right path. Think of it this way, if it’s not scaring you, it’s not important to you.
This also shows that you are human, so don’t let it stop you from taking that next step. The fear never goes away, although we can’t let it rule our world and stop us from going after what’s right for us.
Don’t let fear steal your dreams.
This next step is a doozy and one we often find plenty of excuses against. But the truth is you have to take action to get past the fear and the doubt. Without action you will get really stuck, frustrated and overwhelmed.
You might try and figure everything out in your head, but that’s not going to work. You need to figure things out with momentum. Understand that fear and doubt will never leave you, but taking small steps forward will help you manage and overcome the roadblocks that pop up for you along the way.
When I was transitioning into new ideas I always knew the fear was there, I was just really good at calling it other things and making up plenty of excuses. This got me nowhere.
It was only once I started taking action and then assessing with each step what felt right to me and what didn’t that I could find the clarity I needed.
You’ll be surprised at what you learn when stepping into action. I would never have found the work I do now as a Discovery Coach had I tried to figure everything out logically before I started. Taking action, trying new things and saying yes before I thought I was ready have led me to do the work I do now, and I am forever grateful for that.
I believe action inspires clarity and fuels confidence.
5. Coming Home
This is what makes it all worth it. This is the feeling of coming home, of feeling like you’re on the right path. It’s that inner feeling of contentment and relief. It’s a sense of release as you finally start to realise who you really are and what you’re really meant to be doing in the world. You’re happy and you know this is where you’re meant to be.
Coming home doesn’t mean your reinvention journey is over for good. It just means you’ve ventured further along your path and can settle in for a little while, until your next nudge of realisation kicks in.
Live how you want to live. Work how you want to work. Play how you want to play.
These stages of reinvention will have many times over your life. Embrace them and all that they have to offer. You’ll be grateful for the process.
Remember the gold is often found in the detours, so don’t be afraid to step of the path a little and find what’s waiting for you.
Now I’d love to hear which stage you’re currently at and what you’re fearing most. Know that it’s totally OK to be freaking out, or you may be completely thrilled about the journey you’re on. Sharing your stage will help others realise they’re not in this alone.
Natasha Vanzetti lives by the motto “Just because it doesn’t exist doesn’t mean we can’t create it”. As a Discovery Coach™ and Speaker, Natasha helps big-hearted entrepreneurs pin-point their business sweet spot. By using her innate ability to see what people can’t see for themselves, Natasha helps her clients discover where their true value lies and what’s standing in their way. The result – people feel excited & energized by their work, and have the confidence to go after what they truly want.
You can find out more at www.natashavanzetti.com