By Cheryl Paige
It was a few years ago when I was hit smack in the side of the head with the realisation that I couldn't hear myself. I didn't know what I thought, what I wanted, or what I needed. I had let other's thoughts and opinion, desires and needs outweigh my own. It was sad, but true; I had completely lost touch with and silenced my inner voice.
In order to start to hear and then to listen to my inner voice I had to make some changes. It was a process and it's now something I do every day so I never find myself without access to this invaluable guidance. Here it is for you to try.
1) Recognize The Need for Silence and Stillness in Your Life
"The answers to all my questions lie within me."
The fact is that you, and only you, know what is best for you. We often lose sight of this and turn to others to tell us what is best for us, what they think we should do, if what we believe is ok, and if they agree with what we want.
If you are in a state, like I was, of depending on other people to guide you, you may start to feel resentful and controlled. It's ok to ask for advice, but ensure that you are giving yourself the room and the time to get clear about what you think and need.
You can do this by getting still and quiet.
Find a quiet place where you can just be still. Give yourself time to quiet your mind. It's essential to get out of your head and move into your body.
Take a breath in and allow it to move through your body. As you continue to breathe pay attention to what is going on in your body. What feelings are coming up? What sensations are you having?
Once you have relaxed and your mind has slowed down, ask yourself the question that you are contemplating.
Now listen for the answers. They will come.
2) Pay Attention to Your Instincts
Instincts are your inner voice speaking to you. They sound like "humm." They feel like the hair that stands up on the back of your neck, or the gut feeling you get when you just know. They are the red flags you see, but too often ignore.
You don't need to intellectually understand. You need to get out of your head, start listening to your instincts, and start to trust them. Stop silencing them. They are how you speak to yourself and often you can't explain why. You don't need to explain why.
Begin to pay attention to your instincts and take time to contemplate what the message may be. Ask yourself, "what is whispering to you right now?" "What is the message I am meant to receive?"
3) Be Authentic & Speak Your Truth
Now that you can hear your inner voice again, it is time to start to take those masks off and to show up authentically as you. Let everything that you are whole heartedly shine brightly: all of your strengths, quirks, uniqueness, beliefs, and fears. It is now time to show up as you and speak your truth- even if your voice shakes. It is a lot less exhausting then pretending to be someone you aren't while silencing your inner voice.
This will push you out of your comfort zone, but in the end you will feel amazing because you are being true to yourself. I invite you to begin to implement this process into your life and watch as your inner voice begins to show you exactly what you need.
Beaming you light, love & happiness!
Cheryl Paige is an empowerment coach, teacher, and healer. At heart she's a gatherer of information from reading, inquiring and always learning and loves to share all of the knowledge that she has learned along this journey of life! In order to do so, she develops step-by-step processes for woman to follow so they can unleash their magnificence.
Cheryl offers a one-one-on Renovate Your Life Program and an online course Create The Life You Dream Of. Both programs are designed to help you become empowered, feel less overwhelmed, have more confidence and feel in control of your life again.