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Behind The Blog Scene // Bethany Herwegh of The Glamorous Housewife

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There is a theme of honesty that I've seen popping up in the blogosphere, a trend that is close to my heart and that I think is long overdue. Do you see it? People everywhere are raising their hands, expressing vulnerability and willing to happily talk about the ups and downs of blogging. That is what struck me about Bethany and her blog, The Glamorous Housewife. She is candid, funny and raw - three qualities I love in a blogger and I was so happy to get a chance to chat with her and talk blogger to blogger about what motivates her to keep writing...

Describe your blog in 3 words…
Inspiration for living
What is your blogging manifesto?
I want to teach women how to be creative and motivated in their daily lives as proud homemakers by using the best tips and tricks of the past to inspire our futures.
Top 3 blogging essentials?
A hot cup of tea, tenacity, passion for teaching others.
My biggest blogging moment/milestone was....
The first non family member comment I ever got. I was shocked and amazed that somebody I had never met would be interested in something I had to say. To this day I remember her "name" which was LePetiteMort. Back in the early days we didn't use our real names when blogging, hence why I am The Glamorous Housewife and she went by a different pen name. The minute I realized there were others in the world who were like me and wanted to learn what I had to teach, I was hooked and I never looked back. It was like I was born to blog.
My dream collaboration would be?
Dita Von Teese. She is the original glamorous housewife.
Right now I'm listening to...
The beauty of silence. It is 6:07am and the kids are all still asleep. In about 30 minutes the house will be cacophonous with the  noise of children getting ready for school, so I enjoy the silence while I can. As for the music I listen to, my tastes are very eclectic. I prefer Ella Fitzgerald when cooking and have been known to have old skool hip hop Fridays from time to time.
Best piece of advice to a newbie blogger?
Blogging is a marathon, not a sprint. It takes a lot of time before you start to see true results. But the good news is the people you will virtually meet will be some of the most amazing and creative people ever and you will be thrilled to be able to call them friends.
If I wasn't blogging I'd be...
Really, really bored. I honestly can't think of what I would rather be doing with my life. I imagine I would be doing all the same day to day things, I just wouldn't be writing about it. 
Behind the scenes of my blog looks like...
Fun! I hired an assistant about three months ago and we laugh and talk and work all day. If it isn't exciting, why bother doing it? 
This year I'm most excited about...
So many big things for 2015! I am currently writing a book which I hope will get picked up by a publisher. If not I will be self publishing it so either way, there should be a book sometime next year. It is 100% new content and it will be a detailed guide to becoming a glamorous housewife. I am also working on a blog revamp which should be unveiled in early January. It will be much easier to read and user friendly. In addition to the new blog revamp and book, I will be starting my new online classes! I have written a comprehensive course on taking your wardrobe from frump to fabulous! I am so excited to finally be able to teach my beloved readers how to fall in love with their closet using tips and tricks from the wisdom of the divas of the past which seems to have been lost in modern times.

How To Blog Without Losing Yourself

By Nicole Rouge

It was eleven o'clock on a Friday night and I was huddled on the floor staring at my phone. I had not been stood up, I wasn't waiting for a call, I was scrolling through my social media accounts aching for some new comments and envying those with thousands of followers and perfect 'Instagram' lives.

This is an all-too familiar scenario for many of us in the blogging world. We open our hearts to our readers, think constantly about ideas for posts and spend untold amounts of time and energy (and money) on our blog, yet often get very little in return. We spend hours on social media making connections, building our audience and in-turn observing the success of others. It is very hard not to compare.

The catchcry is 'comparison is the thief of joy.' It sure is. I started blogging as a creative outlet. I had decided years earlier that I was a rubbish writer after a series of unsupportive English teachers and a four year science degree that taught me to paraphrase. After a year of blogging I was triumphant. I had discovered a love for words and my confidence in being able to express myself had improved exponentially. I wrote in a post that writing is something that I can do for myself "in my own time, at my own rate, without relying on other people, or things, or money." That writing "helps me be. It connects me to the world and encourages me to delve deeper." However within a few months I was crunched up on that Friday night obsessing over why more people didn't 'like' me (as an aside, how impotent are the words 'like' and 'follow'), and fretting over my lack of invitations for sponsored posts.

Writing can help us connect with and examine our lives. We develop a greater sense of self-awareness, which is a beautiful gift that we must be careful not to misuse. When I took the time to stop and think about what drew me to blogging, I realised that I am achieving so many of my goals: confidence with words, improving my photography and connecting with others. Naturally these goals have evolved, and I admit that making a bit of cash or scoring a few free dinners is on the list these days, but ultimately the biggest reward is the gorgeous, supportive community we are part of and the comments from our engaged readers. 

Lila Wolff nailed it when she wrote in her post 'that's it I quit blogging': "I've worked my heart out and produced original high quality content, innovated, been mimicked, only to be passed over for people who have better numbers, and I can't lie it's crushing." She hastens to add that at the time of writing she was exhausted and ill, but I wanted to share it with you because it struck a chord with me. She received such an overwhelming, supportive response that, after a short break during which she connected with her needs and the parts of blogging that resonated with her, she relaunched with her exquisite blog Mama Nourish

There is a lot written about blogger burnout. The return doesn't always appear to balance the investments. The secret I think is to lower our expectations without compromising our goals. If you feel like you are losing the love for blogging it helps to answer these questions:

Why did you start blogging?
What were your goals at the beginning? I find it helps to read over your first few posts to answer this one.

What have you achieved?
How are your goals different now? Be careful to recognise what is actually important to you versus the expectations you have based on others.G

I know you've heard this a thousand time but it bears repeating, what makes your blog so special is YOU. You have brought your own exquisite uniqueness to a tiny pinprick of the internet and regardless of what Google Analytics or Facebook  tells you, there are people out there that you connect with. Don't lose sight of that achievement.

Nicole is a wine geek/foodie with a Pharmacy degree from Melbourne, Australia. You can find her blogging at Seeking Victory or on Instagram or Facebook.