By Tess Phillip
A couple of years ago I would never in my wildest dreams think I could ever get paid to write or do what I’m doing now. Although my mum says I was a budding writer since I was 3 years old, it was never something I thought I was good at. I let my grades confirm that belief.
Growing up I had always been a below average student. Creative yes but that was never nurtured or really encouraged at school. And then after school and university, I really struggled to find a decent job that I loved.
At school, you had to fit a specific kind of criteria to gain any kind of success. And then when you go out into the real world, it doesn’t really change. And so you’re left with two choices. Either go along with the rest of the crowd, do things the way “you are meant to” to or go against the grain, create your own opportunities, and give yourself permission to do it because really you cannot expect others to tell you can do it unless first you believe you can.
When I began blogging in early 2013, it started out as a simple hobby. I wasn’t even that good and the first blog I created was pretty lame but it excited me and was something I got pleasure out of doing. Like an artist it was a creative outlet for my soul and a way to share and express myself.
2013 was a huge year for me where I went through a lot of transformation and growth. So much in my life was changing, and very quickly. Blogging became this world I could escape to and be myself. It helped me deal with and process all that was happening. I found myself letting go of one chapter in my life and heading into unfamiliar territory. It was scary but exciting too. I found myself in a whole new world where I was discovering things about myself I hadn’t even realised yet. And along the way I got better at blogging.
I discovered there was more to life than sitting in an office everyday working 9-5 even though I wasn’t sure what that meant or what that even looked like. But I was determined to find out. I also discovered I was more than just a business degree or the mark I got in my HSC or what previous employers told me. And despite being a less than average student in high school and throughout University, I discovered that I actually really enjoyed writing and I was actually pretty good at it.
But the most valuable thing I discovered then was my passions. Writing is just one of those things. I also pursued my coaching qualifications. It was the first time I actually gave myself full permission to explore what made me excited, what lit me up in the morning and then go out and find ways of turning it into something that I could make a living from. Before then I never really thought it was a possibility. I mean I saw others who led these amazing lives but thought those people probably just got lucky. It’s not that I have this exceptional luxurious life now, far from it. But your life does not need to look glamorous to be amazing.
Actually this is not something that came over night. There is a whole journey involved filled with plenty of ups and downs. I remember sitting at dinner with my family and I told them I was going to start blogging and write for online publications. They are my biggest supporters now but I will never forget their looks of doubt and uncertainty. “Its not that I don’t think you can do it but I’m a little worried how you will handle the criticism and negative comments and messages” is what my brother’s initial response was.
It’s hard enough to have that internal negative self-talk bring you down but to hear this from your own family is even harder. The only other criticism or negativity that I received since was from a family friend who sent me a message outlining all my spelling mistakes. She seemed pretty frustrated by the fact I had actually published something. But I didn’t let that get to me.
The most difficult challenge though is overcoming your own self-sabotaging thoughts and negative self-talk. After all we are our own worst critic. Sometimes getting over yourself and eliminating the crap and stories you tell yourself actually propels you further to success. The next is pushing through the fear of what others will think and create your own opportunities if you want to make something happen. And the last thing is acknowledging your self worth, knowing that you don’t need anyone else’s permission but your own.
As soon as I realised this, my vibration rose and I was able to attract the clients I needed to create my dream job. And be paid for what I love to do.
And you can too.
Tess is a Coach, Creative Virtual Assistant, Writer, Blogger, Creator of #BlogWithBliss a DIY E course on how to set up your Word Press site with ease and bliss. A Coffee Lover, Free Spirit and Rebel, Tess is happiest Creating, Collaborating and Connecting with other Passionate, and Soulful Entrepreneurs. Find her on Facebook and her website.